The most important thing in the real world is to leave the ego behind you. Realizng you really don’t matter that much to most people in the world prevents psychological delusion and self-imposed embarassment.
I have learned to shrug off to many things long time ago. In many cases when it’s not your high moment, the best thing to do is to shut up and walk away. You actually don’t look as bad as you think. Cuz no one actually cared.
90% of what’s happened in our life can be categorized as "Don’t Care", really. It’s neither important nor necessary to position yourself to be someone that wants to get everything right. Because even if you do, people may just not pay attention. And many things that you think affect your life, if you think about them twice, they are really an attachment not a core piece. Examples? Your favorite sports team, a movie star, a traffic violation, or a quarrel on an Internet BBS.
I always believe that leaving you out, the earth still revolves. I also believe leaving 90% the world out, your life still revolves.
But to the 10% of the things that does matter and to the few people that do care about you and you care about, don’t mess up and don’t let them down. Better, try to concentrate your attention on those, really, these things are unrecoverable once they are lost.
The key here? Know what’s the 90% and what’s the 10%.