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It’s just not that important

 
晚饭后听了一会儿Joel Osteen的演讲。我自然不是基督徒,但Joel Osteen的演讲我一直很喜欢。
 
今天说的是关于Recognizing what battles to fight.
 
很多时候you may try so hard to prove a point, try to win others’ approval, try to accomplish something at the moment, but that something is just not worth it in the big picture.
 
和别人相处时,我们往往在交谈中发现和对方对某件事有不同的观点。于是我们开始辩论,然后升级到互相冷嘲热讽,最后开始互相攻击。也许你是对的,也许他是对的。也许最终你证明了你的观点,也许最终他阐述了他的理论。但问题是,我们花费在证明自己阐述自己上的能量,往往是意义不大的浪费。我们赢得的,也许只是小小的自我满足,而迷失的,却是更多。
 
So many times we are trying to fight over something that just does not matter that much.  Not every battle is worth fighting.  Many challenges that come in our way may simply be distractions that lure us away from our destiny.
 
也有很多时候,我们往往无法控制自己想赢得每一点能显示自己的机会。But actually, these little things, even if you do win, they are not going to put you further down the road.  我们应该懂得何时对很多不主要的事一笑置之,因为如果我们只是为了赢得这些事而努力,那我们可能失去的是更多。比如相处的融洽,轻松的气氛,或朋友的感情。
 
More importantly, if we make the mistake of engaging in every battle that comes long, constantly defending ourselves, proving our points, straightening someone up, then we will not have the energy we need to fight the battles that do matter.  We have to ask ourselves if the battle we are engaged in is worth fighting and if it will further you towards your destiny.  Or we are just fighting to pay somebody back that offended us, or fighting to prove to someone that you are important.  Those are just distraction.  Most of the frustration that come our way are not worth fighting for.
 

5 responses to “It’s just not that important

  1. Mira August 4, 2008 at 5:47 pm

    平安、健康、静心~

  2. Maoni August 4, 2008 at 7:20 pm

    Just because you are right, doesn\’t mean you have to say it out loud.
     

    Just because someone else is not right and you are, doesn\’t mean you have to point it out.
     
    Or sometimes, if you really need to point it out, you can wait till other people have pointed some of it out first.
     
    That\’s what I learned through working with people🙂
     

  3. Yu August 4, 2008 at 11:01 pm

    没错…"I\’m not speaking up doesn\’t mean you are right."….如果看一群小朋友吵架,基本上赢的那一方都是靠音量取胜的….

  4. hui August 5, 2008 at 6:45 am

    我要是碰到谈不到一块的,基本上就是处于懒得搭理,连辩论的时间都省了,道不同不相为谋:)

  5. ziying October 7, 2008 at 4:27 am

    我学到的一句话是"choose the battle"

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